It is vital that you get to a real understanding of what is going on with your child. Tracking is the FASTEST way to do it. Waiting on professionals doesn't stop the turmoil in your house today, leaving you feeling helpless. Tracking gives you the knowledge of what you can do right now to bring calm to your home. In this video I share why tracking is so important and what it can do you for.
So often we place emphasis on how much time something should take and in all honesty, we need to stop looking at time this way. Instead we need to start looking at what we need to accomplish in our day and how much ENERGY those activities require of us. When you are a parent of a special needs child the smallest tasks can take HUGE amount of energy to complete.
The other morning Samantha was struggling with tactile sensitives and was "uncomfortable" in what she had on her body for school. Her panic began to set in. At this point I have 2 choices: get stressed out or help her through this issue. This quick tip video walks you through how I derailed her SPD meltdown before it picked up steam with 2 simple tips.
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When Samantha was little and really struggling we stopped going places with her because we couldn't find places where she could be herself without others passing judgment on us. She needed to run. Sometimes she needed to cry or she needed to take a break. She wanted to play with everything and be loud. She wanted to jump and run. When we were homeschooling there were only a handful of hands on educational centers we could visit. I wish we would have had a Think Tank.
A few weeks ago I was in a conversation with several other Moms about a local child home who takes in kids that have "failed" in the foster system because the parents can't or won't work with their issues. Immediately after that was said, I chimed in with, "It's won't. It's not can't." Several of the other ladies stopped to look at me, as I am sure they could see that I was really passionate about this. Another Mom proceeded to explain that some parents won't help because they don't know how. <<-- Whoa! Say Wait?
The other day my daughter came into the design studio and began asking what crafts she can make. The first thing she rattled off is a dress! <<--Bold, but WAY over her skill level. The only thing she has ever sewn in a little square pillow. I know what trying to make a dress that will lead to. Anger, frustration, tears, and a waste of materials. Instead I explained what the process is to make a dress and how many hours it takes to complete. I suggested we look for another alternative. A sewing craft (is she really wanted to sew) that was a next step from stitching a square.
Everywhere you seem to turn today we are flooded with loud, nasty, over-done examples of drama. When did this happen? And why are we fascinated by it? The news is not news any more without some outrageous headline. TV shows are dramatic. Reality shows are dramatic. Ads on FB, Twitter, and everywhere else are drama. It is impossible to find shows you can watch together as a family. You can't check out at the grocery store without being surrounded by tabloids giving homage to celebrities behaving badly.
Yesterday I was at the grocery store picking up a few items. Several rows over I can hear a child screaming at the top of her lungs. She went on and on and the sound was getting louder as I was moving that direction and they were moving towards me.
She continued to scream for over 5 minutes when my eyes meet who was making the sound.
Last Friday night I was an absolute failure as a parent. My response was everything I tell you NOT to do.
Samantha had over reacted to playing with magna-tiles for the umpt-teeth time. (Literally every time she gets them out she ends up yelling, be frustrated, and trying to break them because they are not cooperating.) Frankly, after the 3rd time it happened, I should have simply removed from the room for a while. I was mad at myself for not doing this.