Have you ever been really excited to share some news or a story with a friend or family member, only to begin and somehow they bring your issue back to themselves? They basically hijacked your need to share to them sharing their stories or personal experience. Yeah; me too and I have been that person too. (Just being honest.)
Albert Einstein defines insanity as, "repeating the same behaviors and expecting the same outcomes." Simply brilliant, isn't it? Over the years I have come to embrace this concept. There is no evidence that if what isn't working for you today will ever work for you in the future. Something has to give. Something has to change. The problem is that for most of us, change is scary. The unknown is scary. So we sit in complacency hoping for a better result without doing anything else.
Today I had the opportunity to share some ADHD insight with the listeners of Ally's Attic radio show. I adored our casual open discussion about the struggles that face our children (her grandchild), as well as, simple hands on techniques you can deploy today to help them thrive. Ally's lighthearted sense of humor makes her a delight to speak with, and I love chatting with another amazing women who likes to laugh about life as much as I do.
What do you think of when you hear the word school? Or what about the word education? Were the memories positive ones? Mine weren't. I loathed school. It was boring, long, and I felt like most of what I spent my day doing was memorizing useless information. I did go on to college and finished with a Bachelors of Art in Business Management. Yet, most of what I've learned came well after I went to school. Some of the most profound lessons and education I've had come from the doing in life. The experiencing.
Let me guess, you have a To-do list a mile long and it seems every time you get one thing off the list two more get added. Yep. That was me too. I was constantly stressed out, frustrated, and short tempered that no matter how hard I tried I couldn't get stuff done. It became so bad that I found my self depressed. I felt I wasn't the Mother I wanted to be, the Wife I once was, the business person I needed to be, or the friend I thought I was. It was an awful time until....I realized that I was the reason I felt this way.
In this coming year, it is my goal to SHARE more with those around me. That includes sharing more love and fun with my family. I have found that learning to love the every day is where real joy comes from and adding small fun touches to an ordinary day can transform it into an EXTRA-ordinary day. As Valentine's Day approaches you can share more fun to create the most memorable Valentine's Day for your family...and it doesn't have to cost a lot, nor does it have to be filled with endless amounts of junk food.
Over the holiday I was quickly reminded how many of those suffering depression are struggling in silence. I watched as a family member who seemed okay went blank and began to cry. The tears fell and the words of wanting to die came forth. And as they cried I hugged them tight and cried with them. I know that pain. I know that darkness. This was their way of calling out for help. Hoping that the tears would be enough for someone to lend a hand. We will. We will not let them fight this battle alone.