What do you think of when you hear the word school? Or what about the word education? Were the memories positive ones? Mine weren't. I loathed school. It was boring, long, and I felt like most of what I spent my day doing was memorizing useless information. I did go on to college and finished with a Bachelors of Art in Business Management. Yet, most of what I've learned came well after I went to school. Some of the most profound lessons and education I've had come from the doing in life. The experiencing.
Let me guess, you have a To-do list a mile long and it seems every time you get one thing off the list two more get added. Yep. That was me too. I was constantly stressed out, frustrated, and short tempered that no matter how hard I tried I couldn't get stuff done. It became so bad that I found my self depressed. I felt I wasn't the Mother I wanted to be, the Wife I once was, the business person I needed to be, or the friend I thought I was. It was an awful time until....I realized that I was the reason I felt this way.
In this coming year, it is my goal to SHARE more with those around me. That includes sharing more love and fun with my family. I have found that learning to love the every day is where real joy comes from and adding small fun touches to an ordinary day can transform it into an EXTRA-ordinary day. As Valentine's Day approaches you can share more fun to create the most memorable Valentine's Day for your family...and it doesn't have to cost a lot, nor does it have to be filled with endless amounts of junk food.
Over the holiday I was quickly reminded how many of those suffering depression are struggling in silence. I watched as a family member who seemed okay went blank and began to cry. The tears fell and the words of wanting to die came forth. And as they cried I hugged them tight and cried with them. I know that pain. I know that darkness. This was their way of calling out for help. Hoping that the tears would be enough for someone to lend a hand. We will. We will not let them fight this battle alone.
Did you ever do dot-to-dots as a kid? I did. Most of the time you could tell the picture without even having to connect the dots. That is until I came across Extreme Dot-To-Dots. These pages are filled with hundreds of dots and hundreds of numbers. Honestly, you have NO idea what the picture is until you have completed connecting all the dots. I find this to also be true of our lives and our children's lives.
Last Wednesday was very trying as the school phone calls, teacher emails, and child meltdowns were at an all time high. It was becoming so stressful for everyone that it was time to make a drastic change. With much consideration my husband and I chose to remove Munchkin from school to homeschool her. For good this time. POOF! Just like that, our world was about to change. Part of me was disappoint, but I was not surprised. We took on that risk when we moved to PA and enrolled Samantha in private school. The other part of me was relieved.
As I was out running errands I watched a young girl, around the age 5 scream that she wanted the toy. Her Mother told her No. Of course, she began to cry and scream that she wanted it. You could see the instant stress on the mother's face as her child threw a fit. I kid you not the women picked up the child and gave her the toy. Instantly the tears were gone from the little girl and a huge smile on her face. Later, I watched them check out and go on with their day.
The other day was the perfect storm of what I consider quality family time and it couldn't have come at a better time. All to often I see us slipping away into technology. All of us. As if we were cyber zombies. We are sitting there, side-by-side, or across from one another yet nothing. We don't speak to each other. We don't acknowledge each other. We don't recognize who were are with. Each time I see this it breaks my heart. This is not how I grew up. This is not how I imagined my family time would look. And it's at these moment I feel like disabling everything.