Every year I pick one word that I want to reflect the upcoming year's focus. Last year for 2017 I chose Breathe (and I needed to do that a lot). This year it took me almost 3 weeks to decide the word I wanted to sum up my hopes for the upcoming New Year. After much consideration, my word for the 2018 New Year is SHARE.
It is my goal to SHARE more . . .
This fall my family was blessed to have an opportunity to take a BIG family vacation to the "Happiest Place on Earth", Disney World. We were meeting my parents and my brother with his family for 7 days of pure family fun.
As myself and my husband are not new to Disney World, we already knew what to expect. However, this was the first real, get on a plane, stay in a hotel, vacation for our daughter. Here's what we did and what I learned to ensure everyone has a great time.
In my experience how you ask for something is just as important as what you ask for. Often times we take on a demanding tone with our children versus an asking tone with other adults. Why? In this quick video I share several examples of the difference and how I believe it changes the responses we receive from our children while creating an more calm environment. It has also been in my experience that many frustrations can be avoided simply by being a more effective communicator.
I was delighted to be a returning guest on the Ally's Attic Radio Show last week to talk about my new book. Often times I am asked if I wanted to be an author. The answer: NO. I never did. But I was called to write this book. I know what it's like to feel like your home is in free fall every single day. Your child is angry, depressed, throwing tantrums, screaming, fighting, panicking. It's awful. It's lonely.
Over two years ago, God called me to write this book. Often I wondered, why me? I never had a desire to become an author. I was a poor grammarian in school, and it's still not my thing. Maybe because He knows I am loud, or not afraid to share our story. There is a teacher in me, and the desire to help whoever I can.
A couple of weeks ago, we went to our local amusement park for the day. The weather was beautiful and we were excited. This was the first time Munchkin would have an opportunity to try out some of the bigger roller coasters and rides. My husband and I treated it like a massive experiment. We had no idea how she would respond to the noise, the rides, the crowds, etc. We went in with ZERO expectations of what rides we were going to try. We let Munchkin lead the way.
Do you ever feel like the "odd" Mom out? The one Mom who if you're there in the neighborhood group, great; but if not, no big deal. The Mom who has to sit out at meetings with your child because they won't cooperate and let you leave their side? The Mom who has to be ready to leave at a moments notice, because of an impending emotional or behavioral situation. The Mom who can't stay out late because her child needs to stay on schedule, or pay the penalty when their child is up at 4am?
I know I do.
We scroll through Facebook or Instagram seeing little snippets of other peoples lives and they can look perfect. NEWS FLASH...we are all a bunch of hot messes just trying to survive. Everyone's behind the scenes has ugly parts, but we do our best to hide them. WHY? That's where the truth and real is happening. We have to stop striving for fake lives. Let's all agree that real life is messy, random, crazy, & beautiful.