First of all, you need to accept that anger is a perfectly natural feeling for your child to have. It's what they do when they are angry is where they need help. Empathize with their anger. They are struggling with something and you are going to help them work through it. Also, remember that anger is usually a by product of another feeling that is the root cause of the issue.
How many time have you heard on the news or read on social media of a special needs child who is sitting alone at their birthday party because no one decided to show up? Or the child who wrote his wish list for Christmas and all it had on their was a friend. Just the other day I posted about a child who even though he had been bullied, opted to wear a t-shirt on the first day of school that read, “I will be your friend.” So that others would know they don’t have to be alone.
It plays out over and over.
Most schools are right now about 4 to 6 weeks outside of their start dates. Now is the time to start working on resetting sleep schedules. It's so easy to get so relaxed in the summertime where your child stays up late and sleeps in. Unfortunately, for most school schedules that doesn't work out and you don't want to be running around the last two weeks before school trying to get your child up. Trust me you're setting yourself up for struggles getting out the door, an exhausted child, and routine battles.
Through out our struggles with Samantha there would be times I would want to roll up into a tiny ball and pray to disappear. I was exhausted, frustrated, and felt like I couldn't go on like this. My house was always a messy, I never had enough time to get my work done, and running errands was simply impossible. My husband and I hadn't had a date night out, by ourselves, in over 6 month. Vacation. What was that? We hadn't taken a vacation since Samantha was born. Yet, what I came to realize it that in those moments when I felt this way, it was not Samantha's fault. It was mine.
With school only a few weeks away, stores have filled their shelves with mountains of back to school supplies. Many of us special needs parents have mixed feelings about sending our kids back to school. It typically means more stress for everyone. It means homework battles, social skill troubles, IEP meetings, and more texts from teachers. Now is the time to think ahead about your child's needs. This is my 6 must haves school supplies for your you SPD or ADHD child.
For you to be able to help your child with a technique that works, you need to understand what emotional state your child is in. Each emotional state is different and needs its own set of tools and techniques to help your child work through them. One of the easiest ways to do this is to decide if you have a Pooh bear, an Eeyore, a Piglet, or a Tigger? <<-- Say what?
I can not say enough good things about KiwiCo . We had the ages 5-8 monthly subscription for many years and we LOVE it! We have since moved to the next level, which is called the Tinker Crate, and recently added the Doodles box. The Tinker Crate is for ages 9+ and focuses on STEAM activities, where as the Doodle Crate is for ages 9+ and focuses on art techniques.
It is so tiring trying to manage the day to day activities of running a household. There were days I used to feel like I was a mad chicken with my head cut off and I still couldn't get everything done. I tried spreadsheets and lists. Still couldn't get it all done. Do you ever get tired of trying to get everything in the house done and feel you can't? There's always laundry to do, dishes to clean, meals to make, and a house to keep tidy and you never seem to have enough time to get it all done?
As a special needs parent it is common that your child's needs become the center of your universe. Everything you plan and do ends up revolving around them. You do it because you are trying to ensure that they are successful. So they will be happy and not have meltdowns, tantrums, or sadness; because let's be honest, that easier for us. Unfortunately, there is a fine line between being empathetic to your child's needs and being an enabler to let poor behavior choices continue.