For you to be able to help your child with a technique that works, you need to understand what emotional state your child is in. Each emotional state is different and needs its own set of tools and techniques to help your child work through them. One of the easiest ways to do this is to decide if you have a Pooh bear, an Eeyore, a Piglet, or a Tigger? <<-- Say what?
I can not say enough good things about KiwiCo . We had the ages 5-8 monthly subscription for many years and we LOVE it! We have since moved to the next level, which is called the Tinker Crate, and recently added the Doodles box. The Tinker Crate is for ages 9+ and focuses on STEAM activities, where as the Doodle Crate is for ages 9+ and focuses on art techniques.
It is so tiring trying to manage the day to day activities of running a household. There were days I used to feel like I was a mad chicken with my head cut off and I still couldn't get everything done. I tried spreadsheets and lists. Still couldn't get it all done. Do you ever get tired of trying to get everything in the house done and feel you can't? There's always laundry to do, dishes to clean, meals to make, and a house to keep tidy and you never seem to have enough time to get it all done?
As a special needs parent it is common that your child's needs become the center of your universe. Everything you plan and do ends up revolving around them. You do it because you are trying to ensure that they are successful. So they will be happy and not have meltdowns, tantrums, or sadness; because let's be honest, that easier for us. Unfortunately, there is a fine line between being empathetic to your child's needs and being an enabler to let poor behavior choices continue.
They other day, I planned an activity to take my daughter to a LIVE animal show at the local library. I asked her if it was something she thought she would enjoy. She said yes. To even sweeten the experience I invited some of her neighborhood friends to join us. We went. I made sure we had a snack before going in. (No need to let "hangry" set in). We waited in line, a pretty big line to be seated. When the doors opened up moms, grandmas, dads, and a squadron of children piled into the room.
At the beginning of the school year, I was extremely worried about how my daughter would do. She has been kicked out of 2 schools already. Being homeschooled she wasn't use to working all day or being in a more rigid routine. To attempt to make school as fun as I could I began with a behavior prize bucket; whereas, if she had a good day and could tell me one thing she liked about school she would be able to select a small prize from the bucket. The bucket only lasted about the first 6 weeks and then faded away.
Over this journey, I have become a champion for healthy eating. I continue to preach that We Are What We Eat (#WeRWhatWeEat). I am a true testimony of what the difference can make, not only for weight, but overall health. This includes mood, behavior, and concentration for my 7 year old with ADHD, SPD, & DDMD. ADHD diets for kids and adults are not a new thing. Many in the blogasphere contest whether or not they are effective. I believe they are highly effective if implemented consistently and with all the important pieces in place.
I am a real believer that We Are What We Eat! If you put junk in your body, then you will get junk back. Over the years, we have learned the impact that food has on behavior, mood, and overall health. Essential we have stumbled into our creating an effective ADHD diet that really works. My daughter's focus, moods, and behavior improved. I was able to lose 50 pounds while also reducing my migraines, heartburn, sore joints while gaining better sleep and way more energy, by following the Wheat Belly Diet.
When I tell people that Samantha is unschooled, many of them are taken aback. They have a puzzled look on their face. I go on to explain that learning happens naturally for all of us through the experiences we have in life. In this process, it is not necessary to force children to learn something specific, as they will follow their natural curiosities, passions, and interest. Subjects, such as reading, math, science, present themselves through that engagement.