Are You Asking or Are You Demanding?

  • 19 October 2017
  • Kristi
Are You Asking or Are You Demanding? How you Talk to your children can make all the difference

In my experience how you ask for something is just as important as what you ask for. Often times we take on a demanding tone with our children versus an asking tone with other adults. Why? In this quick video I share several examples of the difference and how I believe it changes the responses we receive from our children while creating an more calm environment. It has also been in my experience that many frustrations can be avoided simply by being a more effective communicator. This simply technique can make all difference between cooperation and what seems like defiance. 

VIDEO RECAP

ASKING = request, respect, trust, and independence

DEMANDING - disrespect, inconsideration of feelings, control

Be prepared for when your child responds "No". Does the situation require urgency? If so, ask again adding the words right now, and an explanation of why you are asking. If the situation is not urgent, accept that your child may be busy and needs time to complete their task before answering your request. Also, recognize what you are asking can wait for a later time, or if it is urgent to you, complete it yourself. 

Well, are you asking or are you demanding when you speak to your kids? Tell me in the comments below. 

 

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