Moms Know How to Connect the Dots for Ultimate Success

  • 1 March 2020
  • Kristi
Moms Know How to Connect the Dots for Ultimate Success

Did you ever do dot-to-dots as a kid? I did. Most of the time you could tell the picture without even having to connect the dots. That is until I came across Extreme Dot-To-Dots. These pages are filled with hundreds of dots and hundreds of numbers. Honestly, you have NO idea what the picture is until you have completed connecting all the dots. I find this to also be true of our lives and our children's lives. 

When I was a kid I was always amazed at how my Mother just knew what we had been up to, or she knew the exact perfect thing to say to help the situation. Then she would go on to find us the perfect item, class, person, or thing to make our lives better. I have often talked about the sixth sense that Mothers have and its profound ability to helping our families. I never realized that when I became a Mom that I would not only have to have a heightened sixth sense, plus be the best FBI investigator, and the best dot-to-dot player ever. Did you?

I stumbled across this quote the other day in my Facebook news feed, "A Worried Mother Does Better Research Than The FBI", and it is so true. Remember how Mom always knew? Well, I am sure its because she could research and gather information like a mad man. She talks to other people. She asks the right questions. She finds out. It's AMAZING! 

extreme-dot-to-dotSpeaking for myself, I can't tell you the number of times I've had to dig and dig and dig for information. Once I've found a shred of information that pertains to our situation I figure out how it fits in the whole story. See, one of the biggest struggles that we have as parents is that we are the center link of what happens to our children. The lynch-pin, if you will. We may take them to doctors, therapists, nutritionists, tutors, or teachers for help, but they don't see the whole picture. We do. The pros only see a little part of the puzzle and can only speak to their area of expertise. Unfortunately, that means they are only treating a small bit of your child's needs instead of your whole child. And unfortunately for our children to overcome their struggles they need to have to an all encompassing plan of attack. 

{"All of our child's struggles are connected to EVERYTHING they do, eat, breathe, play, read, touch, and experience."}

Prime example. Samantha has been through occupational therapy twice already. In each of these cases we focused on tactile defensiveness. At the end of the second round of OT (that were almost two years apart) I asked to have her assessed for her clumsiness issues due to her poor balance and coordination. At the time, it was deemed that her clumsiness was most likely due to her ADHD, not a developmental delay. Fast forward two more years.

I recently read these articles (from Integrated Learning Strategies):

http://ilslearningcorner.com/2016-04-limbic-system-your-childs-onoff-switch-for-emotional-grounding-fight-or-flight-and-meltdowns/

http://ilslearningcorner.com/2015-11-why-crossing-the-midline-activities-helped-this-child-listen-to-his-teacher/

http://ilslearningcorner.com/2016-01-primitive-reflexes-a-child-in-constant-fight-or-flight-mode/

These articles discuss the effects of under developed systems and primal reflexes in relation to their effects on emotion, reasoning, balance, coordination, learning, processing, writing etc. It was eye opening.  

I reached back out to her occupational therapist and asked her to re-evaluate Samantha based on a very specific list of concerns. This time focusing on balance, coordination, and primal reflexes. While we are currently still in the process of having all the testing done, I have gone ahead to learn about what exercises we can do at home to improve these areas in hopes that it will have a positive effect on her ability to control her emotions, reasoning, balance, coordination, clumsiness, learning, writing, focus, executive functions, processing, and math. 

But...WHY didn't any of the other professionals or her OT ever suggest to look at these systems? We have been seeing professionals since Samantha was 4 years old (over 6 years) and not one of them pointed out that this might be something we should look at. Albeit, not surprising, but I find it flabbergasting. None of the professionals we have seen ever mentioned to look at her diet, her sleep patterns, or her developmental systems. NOT ONE! It has been all on me and my husband to make observations, investigate, and try to connect the dots. 

Don't get me wrong, I am grateful to have stumbled upon these things to help improve her life. However, it would be nice if once in a while the professionals would throw us bone to make our lives a little bit easier. Oh well, we shall carry on. I will keep you posted on her therapy and if it has a positive effect on her learning and emotional balance. Until then, have you ever had to connect the dots for your child? If so, what was the situation? Tell me in the comments below. 

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