Are You Empathetic or Enabling Your Special Needs Child's Behavior?

  • 7 November 2018
  • Kristi
Are you Empathetic or Enabling Your Special Needs Child's Behavior?

As a special needs parent it is common that your child's needs become the center of your universe. Everything you plan and do ends up revolving around them. You do it because you are trying to ensure that they are successful. So they will be happy and not have meltdowns, tantrums, or sadness; because let's be honest, that easier for us. Unfortunately, there is a fine line between being empathetic to your child's needs and being an enabler to let poor behavior choices continue. 

In this video I address that very situation and don't think we don't struggle with this. We do...all the time. 

VIDEO RECAP: 

  • I always have to remember this quote, "There is no growth without struggle." Period. It has to happen and we need our kids to struggle through various situations so they can gain knowledge, skills, and understanding of what to do. 
  • The World WILL NOT cater to my child's needs. It is my job to give them the tools to be a successful as they possibly can. That means setting expectations and boundaries for behavior. 
  • It's okay to be empathic as long as it doesn't become an excuse for poor behavior choices, or lack of effort. 

If you liked this video check out others on my YouTube Channel

Tell me how do you handle the balance of being empathetic vs enabling?  

 

 

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