I don't know about you, but I couldn't stand when my mother nagged me as a child. It was a constant stream of reminders of how to act, what not to do, or simply a way to suck all the fun out of being a kid - or so I thought until I became a parent. I now understand why my mother had to remind me to do something at least a thousand times. Now, with the struggles we face on a daily basis, I tread a fine line between helping my child remember and being a huge nag.
When your child is in meltdown mode, seconds seem like minutes, and minutes seem like hours. It horrible. The screaming, the yelling, the kicking. As parents with a child who constantly struggles on a daily basis these meltdowns are exhausting and so emotionally charged that it affects everyone in your home. Maybe you have tried a few things, but nothing seems to work. (That was us too). Over the last 6 years of addressing Samantha's issues we have become very, very, very good at turning her from meltdown mania to a happy girl.
It seems that whenever you see a child struggle with certain subjects, Math is in the top 3. In our experience, I found that teaching math out of context only makes learning it harder, but when you give a child a real life scenario (that they can relate too), it becomes easier to understand. This is also one of the biggest reasons we unschool and in our unschooling we play a ton of games. Our games include, board games, card games, and on-line games. Today I have rounded up 7 of our all time favorites.
Bullying in our schools continues to be a problem around the country. Schools and parents are left with trying to figure out how to deal with this issue. Why does bullying happen? How you can help your child? What can we do to prevent bullying in schools?
As a parent that has been on both sides of this issue. It’s a tough one. I believe bullying happens for several reasons.
First of all, you need to accept that anger is a perfectly natural feeling for your child to have. It's what they do when they are angry is where they need help. Empathize with their anger. They are struggling with something and you are going to help them work through it. Also, remember that anger is usually a by product of another feeling that is the root cause of the issue.
How many time have you heard on the news or read on social media of a special needs child who is sitting alone at their birthday party because no one decided to show up? Or the child who wrote his wish list for Christmas and all it had on their was a friend. Just the other day I posted about a child who even though he had been bullied, opted to wear a t-shirt on the first day of school that read, “I will be your friend.” So that others would know they don’t have to be alone.
It plays out over and over.
I believe sleep is the number one thing you can improve for dramatic improvement in your child’s life for better focus, emotional grounding, behavior, and learning that it is the first thing we address in the Empowered Parent Program. If you know someone who’s child is struggling with sleep, please take a second and tag them or share this with them.
Most schools are right now about 4 to 6 weeks outside of their start dates. Now is the time to start working on resetting sleep schedules. It's so easy to get so relaxed in the summertime where your child stays up late and sleeps in. Unfortunately, for most school schedules that doesn't work out and you don't want to be running around the last two weeks before school trying to get your child up. Trust me you're setting yourself up for struggles getting out the door, an exhausted child, and routine battles.
Through out our struggles with Samantha there would be times I would want to roll up into a tiny ball and pray to disappear. I was exhausted, frustrated, and felt like I couldn't go on like this. My house was always a messy, I never had enough time to get my work done, and running errands was simply impossible. My husband and I hadn't had a date night out, by ourselves, in over 6 month. Vacation. What was that? We hadn't taken a vacation since Samantha was born. Yet, what I came to realize it that in those moments when I felt this way, it was not Samantha's fault. It was mine.
With school only a few weeks away, stores have filled their shelves with mountains of back to school supplies. Many of us special needs parents have mixed feelings about sending our kids back to school. It typically means more stress for everyone. It means homework battles, social skill troubles, IEP meetings, and more texts from teachers. Now is the time to think ahead about your child's needs. This is my 6 must haves school supplies for your you SPD or ADHD child.